Anything that costs your mental peace is too expensive:
Author : Dr. Haseena Kabeer
(Educator/Trainer/Counselor)
www.daylife.page
As long as you are working in a toxic environment, you are contributing to the toxicity. Is that worth it? Sadly, many people are stuck for various reasons. But, if you aren’t, get out. They’re not paying you enough to destroy yourself and the longer you stay the harder it is to see what’s happening to you and the harder it is to leave.
A toxic workplace is any job where the atmosphere causes disruptions to productivity and growth. It causes problems not only for your career but also in your personal life. Increased stress, anxiety and insomnia are some side effects of a toxic work environment.
Nothing is worth working in such an environment as it hinders your growth and is dangerous to your overall health. Because of the constant stress, your blood pressure increases steadily, and you run a risk of hypertension and heart problems. The dangers of depression are greater because of anxiety and insomnia, and there is no career growth. Even though you have good pay and great incentives, they are not worth the tension the job gives you.
We usually fail to introspect and see if any of our own behaviors and responses are evoking negative reactions from others , that make them look toxic .When we fail to address our own issues of low self-esteem ,insecurity , emotional immaturity ,lack of confidence , and scarcity mindset , we tend to project our weakness and blame others for it ,and try to find the cause outside ourselves , just to feel good and hide our flaws and scratches .We perceive behaviors in others ,that we do not like in ourselves .
We fail to differentiate between our expectations of others, and the reality of the way things are , and look at people as being toxic ,because they do not meet the expectations ,and behave the way we wish they did ,and perturb us .
We need to evaluate our own beliefs ,thoughts ,feelings and attitude , and see if these are negatively showing in our behavior , and evoking behaviors and treatment of others ,that we label as toxic .
To be have friends you have to be friendly , for people to like you one needs to have sense of humor ,openness in responses , self-esteem ,emotional maturity , social skills , and good communications .It is better to revisit and review your own thoughts, andbehaviors, and see if there is some reason to worry, and just focus on solutions. Being assertive and prudent is helpful up to an extent,
Certainly there are some more fruitful ways to overcome the stress that people face at workplace.
• Take It Slow. The first and the most important thing for staying calm is to take it slow. Slow down. Practice patience. Give your brain some rest. Take a step away and slow down the speed of life.
• Be Mindful. Mindfulness has been proven to help with anxiety. Practice meditation or simply stay mindful by being aware of your inner feelings. Focus on yourself. Take your mind away from all the disturbing elements and slowly focus on yourself.
• Believe In Yourself. It is very important for you to believe in yourself, no matter how difficult the situation is. We tend to lose faith in our abilities when we are faced with challenges, but this one difference in how we think of ourselves in crisis is what differentiates winners from quitters.
• Surround yourself with Positive People. This has always worked for me. I love to stay connected with people who bring positivity to my life. Especially during trying times, I connect with my old friends and family and they always have a way of making me feel better. Call a friend or spend time with kids. Get in touch with optimistic people. Their positivity will certainly reflect upon you, too.
• Good Sleep. We simply cannot underestimate the stupendous power of good sleep. It is a great anesthetic agent that instantly relieves us of stress. If you find it difficult to sleep, pick up a book - preferably motivational in nature - and chances are you will be able to sleep.
• Watch or Read Something Funny. It's hard to laugh in adverse situations. However, to be able to laugh in difficult times only requires a shift in perspective. Watching or reading anything funny takes your mind away from the stressful agent and shifts it towards the lighter side.
• Exercise. Exercising helps by releasing endorphins, which are neurotransmitters that help us feel good. Go out running. Do an hour of yoga. Hit the gym. Sweat it out.
• Watch Motivational TED Talks. In a short 15 minutes, TEDs deliver the most power-packed talks that fill you with energy and motivation.
• Visit an Orphanage . Many times our problems are not big, but we make them big by overthinking them. In times like these you might want to pay a visit to a shelter home to make yourself realize that there are millions who struggle for what we take for granted. (The author has his own study and views)
